Day 10 After Almost A Year

What happened? You might asked, or most probably not. I have not been blogging. I have been planning and trying to implement my plans. And yeah, I found myself trying to push and pushing too hard to get where I want to be online. After almost a year of trying to console myself in blogging my sorrows away writing one blog a day, I feel good. Busy, not so awesome, but good.

The truth is that I stop writing here because I found myself not so sad any longer. When I started this blog, I was groping in the dark and I really don’t know where I want to go. Not only that, I was not sure if I am in the direction that I want to bring myself to. But, decision has been made and I achieved my peace… and so I stopped blogging my sorrow away.

But then again, as I have mentioned here before, each day is different. You wake up feeling great one day and down the next day. And being human that we are, I do tend to forget my resolves and fall back into despair; my uncertainties. It does not help too when I feel alone, bearing the weight of the world (which is unlikely true).  

Just a few word from someone you get your strength, simple words that discourage me can really cause leaps of sadness. And so here I am, blogging again, to remind me that I should listen to my heart. Beyond everything else, I know me best. I know what I can and cannot do. I know what I want, where I want to be.

I know my dreams. I know my desires. I know what makes me happy. I know my worth. I know my capabilities. I know myself. And I know force behind my will to move forward.

And so… I won’t give up. I won't stop blogging it too.

Long Lasting Love: Cultivated Not A Given

I can’t write a decent post today, or maybe days to come. My mind is not in a shape where I can give good advice! What advice?

But I guess I can share some spice of life.

I am, at the moment, happy and like a cat purring in content. For some unknown reason (and I am very shy to admit it) I spent days reading manga. I am so ashamed because I am too old reading this stuff, really. And I am reading Shoujo too!

But you know there are times in my life that I just miss being a teenager and there are moments that I hate thinking, worrying, about life too much that I pour my frustrations and disappointments to my husband. Because I don’t feel great or because I am too fearful to face life, I hate my better half because he can’t do anything to alleviate what I feel.

So, to keep my frustrations to myself, I read, I fantasize. And oh boy, it is getting us somewhere. Because I see to it I read foolish romance, I convert it to reality by remember just how much I love my husband before, when we were just sweethearts. And guess what, it works! (I don’t have to liberty to share more :D)

So, keeping this post short, I just want to know how you think love should be handled in between a man and wife or between lovers who have been together for a long time? How do you think you should keep your love alive and burning?

Money can’t buy me love, what you think?

Hey, here’s a thought, tell me what you think…

You know why rich people don’t just give money away?

I mean poor people think that the rich owe them money because they are rich. You can just feel resentment broiling when a person known to have the money get’s to be in the midst of those who don’t have anything.

This is not being petty or even being ignorant. It is just human nature and of course, one of the members of the deadliest 7 major sins who know ENVY.

But that is beside the point. Rich people are not so keen on giving money not because they are selfish (some are) but because they know money. They know that money is nothing, does not mean anything.

Truth is:

Money can buy you objects but will never buy you sense of accomplishment – in a sense, happiness.

Trite, right?

Sure thing but if you have nothing in life, all you can think is that “if you only you have money, you can buy this and that and that you will be happy at long last”. But that is not true.

Money is nothing but an object used to trick us into believing that it will make us happy. Those who are born to silver spoon – and another truth to tell, I can’t grasp what they are thinking or how they feel – don’t even think about money.

You know why the rich get richer?

This is not because they have money. This is because they know how to create, to make and to build something that make them feel accomplished. It is not about the money as money is just a metric, a measuring stick to know if they have accomplished what they want.

So how can a poor and not so very poor be happy?

And here lies another irony, the answer is so simple but the process is very complicated.

It does not help on thinking to get rich; to thrive to earn money. A poor who will win millions on lotto will still be poor and will probably go back to square 1 a year later. A rich earning a thousand profit will earn millions a year later.

A poor with a thousand peso will probably lose that thousand the same day. The rich with a thousand peso will likely not know it and put it back to business to earn more.

I heard a wise person ones said:

“When you stop thinking about the money, it will come to you…”

And so, if we stop seeing money as a cause of our happiness instead of the result, then we will remain in the loop of unhappiness, restlessness and dissatisfaction.

And here is another irony

We need to think like we are rich to earn more.

But we don’t know how the rich think because we are not.

So what do we do?

I don’t want to confuse you, just want you to think. I just want to emphasize that whatever dreams we are shooting at, money is inconsequential. Money or the lack thereof must not hinder us from reaching out what we want out of life.

When I was in college, I stopped because we don’t have money to send me to school. I continued my studies two and half later not because we have the money but because I was more determined to finish my studies.

The whole two and half years after that, I still didn’t have the money, but that didn’t stop me from graduating.

You see, having no money won’t stop you from anything you have set out to do.

And what more, that time when I don’t have even a single peso in my pocket, that was the happiest years of my life so far. That was when I was strongest and most clear on what I want in life and that was to finish my studies.

When you stop thinking that money will make everything all right, that money will make you happy, that is the day that you open yourself to opportunity to find and earn money. That is also the day you open yourself to creativity, fulfillment and happiness.

So what should you do now?

List out 5 things that you think will make you happy but that you can’t have or do because you don’t have money. Share on the comment below and let us see what you can do about it if we put money out of the equation.

God Bless,

Jean

The power of taking action

You noticed it, right?

If you didn’t then I am going to tell you that I blog what I think and feel in a random fashion with a single goal in mind – to identify what is blocking me to take on the challenge and act on my ideas.

That is the main purpose of my posts here.

Also, like all other bloggers before me, at the back of my mind, I hope that I will inspire you into action too when you read any of my long blog post.

And lastly, here is to cement my habit of writing 500+ words a day and of course, blogging. When I will begin my kickstarva.com operation, I will have to blog everyday or at least regularly each week. By that time, I will have to form a habit of blogging. Hey, I was not a ghostwriter blogger for nothing; if I can this for my clients, why not for my own blog? And so, let’s go back to the why of this blog…

The power of taking action

I have been watching the videos of Ms. Marie Forleo and really, I think she is amazing woman. I like her style and one thing that caught my attention her emphasis on taking action.

You see, coming up with an idea and cooking up a plan is the easy part of a project, whether it will be a personal or work related project. The hardest part is implementing it. Oh, am not saying that because planning is the easy part it would mean it is easy to do. A lot of people I know got stuck with planning and I am one of those people I know of.

But the reason why we get stuck of being stuck is that even when the idea and the plan are already there, we don’t really act on it. Why? Let me enumerate the reasons so it is clear:

1.       We want to make sure everything is perfect.

2.       We fear disappointment and of course, we fear to fail.

3.       We are overwhelmed with so much to do.

4.       When the plan has been drawn, we don’t know if we still have the energy to execute them all.

It is better to start something at 20% perfect than not starting at all

Okay, I am paraphrasing but I mean it as it is. When you aim too much on making something perfect, you will never get to act on it because at the back of our minds this nagging little voice (which is not ours by the way) will say “Nobody is perfect” and of course, because nobody is, it is impossible for you to do something perfectly. So in the end, you will not ACT on your little project or plan because you just can’t seem to make it right.

The thing is, you will need to have feedback to really know if you are doing something right. And you can’t have feedback unless you have started something out for people to check out. So, what should you do so that you can start taking action?

O boy, and I am just so bad with quotes these days, after reading too much of them, so I just got to paraphrase again.

An idea that is not rewritten is just a dream and will never get done…

If you have some idea going on inside your mind, write it down. List all of them. Then pick one that you think you can do right away. You don’t have to do it perfectly, you just get it done.

Of course, it helps to write a plan if this is a bigger project. Identify your actions if they are major actions that require a lot of to do list (mini actions). Just list these out and ensure that every day, you are doing one and at most five mini action steps towards that end goal you have in mind. I am vague, right? No worries, you really don’t have to understand it here. My site, www.kickstartva.com is all about this mini action stuff and I am sharing soon just how to get things done. (I still to launch this though so don't be surprised if I didn't up my products yet :D)

Now, let’s talk about failure

Just what do you think failure is? I see failure as goose bumps and when it is too much to bear, I unload it in a very bionic way (don’t let me share it).

If we think about failure (and do share yours if you don’t see it that way) we think about embarrassments, disappointments, scorn and us being a LOSER.

Hey guys, we win some and we lose some and it is alright because that is life.

A loser is a person who doesn’t do any ACTION and just wallow in fear of failure.

A winner is a person who sees failure, fears failure but has taken ACTION anyways because he knows life doesn’t end in that one moment of failing. What did Thomas Edison say about failure? O, yeah, now he knows hundreds and thousands of ways not to do to make something right.

If you look at it objectively, we are bound to make failures to learn how to do things perfectly. It is not the failing that makes us the loser, it is NOT failing at all that keeps us from winning and make something perfect.

And so you ACT; but where to begin?

This is so totally me. I love planning you see and I do write just about anything I want to do. But when you are taking on a big project, the list of things you need to do just keep on adding up each day! One idea unto another and one to do list to the next – these are utterly OVERWHELMING!

You know, if you got stuck with the circle of to do list, you just got to look at your beginning list and focus on getting it done.

Here’s how it works, if you have endless to do list (these list tend to go on forever) set MILESTONES. Focus on what needs to be done first. And if you get stuck on something especially a bottle neck kind of work, it is not a sin to ask for help. CALL A FRIEND or better yet HIRE SOMEONE to do this for you, there are lots of microjob sites like fiverr and 199jobs.

Three things you just need to remember to stop being overwhelmed with lots of things to do:

KIS

GOI

JGID

Keep It Simple! Get Over It! Just Get It Done!

Lost your energy on planning alone

Yeah, planning can be tiresome! You know, if you feel you have lost all your energy you can actually REST and just VISUALIZE how you would look like if you have get everything done. Be careful with your visualization though. DO NOT VISUALIZE ABOUT WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE! Visualize about how you are enjoying your business or how you are having fun with the fruits of your labor.

Just don’t over rest okay. To ensure you don’t rest overlong, you need to set a deadline on your projects. You have to follow a timeline. You can set a day where you need to have everything set up.

And to make everything interesting, have yourself an ACCOUNTABILITY friend. This friend you will need to ask to remind you where you are, how your project is and what is going on. If this is a friend or someone you pay to make you accountable with your actions, please be NICE if they have become annoying on reminding you what needs to be done.

So, I think I got it all covered.

Now, let me be your Accountability online partner!

List down the things you want to do, choose one you think you like to take action on. Then set a time each day to do one or five mini actions. Share with me what these are and the deadline you want everything to get done. I will, of course, give you friendly reminders. :)

Are you cool with that? Just visit my site www.kickstartva.com, just fill the contact form and I will send you email to remind you where you are in your action plan. Or, if you need to have an action plan template, you can ask me that too.

Looking forward to hearing from you!

The ups and downs of a virtual life

This is a blog without guile or thoughts on the style. Yes, certainly not for SEO or traffic purposes. And yes, I won’t be showing this to clients if I want to offer my services as content strategist. This one here is without guile, just me, writing what comes inside my mind talking and contemplating on things so that I can uplift my spirit. And yes, I also have this wishful thinking that I can uplift your spirit too.

So like drinking buddies, we sit around the table talking about nonsense things but contented on the company that we have. I prefer to have wonderful conversation with a cup of coffee, frappe actually, on hand sipping it, extending it for hours. The longer I have to coffee the more topics we can talk about.

And I love talking about possibilities online. That is all that I can think of right now. I feel I am in love and I can’t eat and sleep (well, the latter more prevalent than the first one) thinking about how wonderful online is.

But I am not techie. I am not into gadgets. I don’t own iphone and I do my online gigs using my hp mini.

What I love online is the opportunity it provides for a lot of people such as moms like me. Imagine, because I can work online, I can work at home. I am working while my baby sat on my lap trying to get my hands off the keyboard. It is an image to behold.

Yes, I have to shoo them away when I have to write but most of the time, one or both of my kids can be found sitting on my lap or beside me while I am working. This is totally amazing.

But having a virtual career is scary because everything is happening within this small corner of my mini laptop. The idea that you can’t hold one position for long and the change is quite abrupt… funny though, I was fired quite abruptly too from my offline position. In fact, the last work I have offline lasted only three months and barely. A month later, I got this position as a VA and been doing this for almost six months. Amazing…

Working online, you will need to have courage, confidence in your own capabilities, flexibility, discipline, determination and most of all imagination. You will need to be creative enough to constantly evolve. When clients go, you will need to land on both feet so you can jump higher than the last time.

Everything is movement online.

You go for an idea. You dream it, build it and make it come true. It is not easy, but you can be who you want to be online. If you are an ordinary nurse, you can be extra ordinary health adviser online. If you are a bored guidance counselor, you can be an awesome psychiatrist online encouraging changes on people’s lives.

The possibility is limitless and all in the spirit of fun.

Of course, that won’t be at all times. As for me, I got cold feet. I was sure I was ready to start my own thing and be awesome online. I feel awesome thinking about it too. But thinking is so different from doing because doing can be exhausting. And if you do both at the same time, you will end up losing all the energy you need to launch.

But hey, as my online friend said, “Nothing Usome is build overnight”. So yeah, I go on. One small step, when I can, I make. And when I have enough energy, I leap too.

One thing that assures me with what I do is that there is no failure if you explore. This is the moment when it is the climb that is the big win and that when you have reach the peak, it I just when you are resting so you can go down and get grounded to find other peaks to climb again.

The feeling is just all up, even when I am feeling down.

This is because the possibilities are just all there and they continue to amaze me. The connection that I have with people from different places makes me happy. The opportunity of learning from working with people who make organizing actually fun and a way of life made me dream more and act more.

So I don’t really stay stumbled for long.

I can’t, not with all these staring at me telling me what is there to be sad for, or to be afraid for in that matter? When I chose to leap, I learned to take on challenges. Yes, admittedly I was filled with bravado but I was also filled with a great desire to work, to follow a career online and to be awesome at what I do.

So all in all, I am happy. Scared at times, but mostly happy.

And now, your time to share

 
What is it that one thing you are passionate about online? Share by writing a comment below. I would love reading about it from you.